We all have regrets deep down. Don’t we? I wish I had taken up that job. Why did I not speak about it earlier? I wish I had not done this. How I fancy I had known this was a golden opportunity? I yearn I had thought about it more seriously before. There are lots of ‘these’ each day. Radically, admit it or not, there is ONE little thing which haunts us always deep inside – one small pang of guilt. Even though we understand and rationalize but it stays- right there on your head with an unnerving anxiety.
Do we recognize, it’s because no one made a list of perfect options in life. We took decisions - some turned out great, some okaish and some….well we don’t know.
Indeed! Its time for you to let them GO. It is not worth it. It isn’t. I am too young to preach anything to my friends. But there are two things I have experienced in my small life span. One, regret only if it makes you do something well again. Regret, if it helps you rise above and think of a superior solution for the future. Regret only if it makes you more observant, more skilled and more content for having realized what went off beam. If it makes you sulky; “Please guilt! Stay away I am too lazy to sympathize with you.”
Secondly, I have realized that sometimes we regret too soon. I don’t know if all of you who are reading this believe in The Almighty but I do. I have seen things turning out good through the same situation for which I have repented. I have seen that a few such lament decisions turned out in fact the finest and real life changing ones for me. The only thing is it took its own time. And I have a feeling God took that bit of “now good- then bad” decision for me. I have understood that we do get answers if not immediately then a little later. But we do.
Also, remorse brings along under-confidence. We are afraid to make evaluations for our life in future. You know we shouldn’t grieve over what has been done. we should regret over the things we didn’t when we had a chance. When I was in my 5th grade, I got a chance to participate in prelims of ‘Bournvita quiz contest’. I was asked to complete next two lines , “pussy cat pussy cat , where had you been”. I know that poem by heart but I was so unsure at that point of time. I kind of stopped and did not answer.I still regret that. I missed my chance for selection to the final levels. It was not about being on the show. It was about not having tried to answer.
I would just like to say in the end we only complain about the chances we didn’t take and the decisions we waited too long to make. Come what may. Be proud that you took that decision and nobody else. And that is in fact a matter of pride I say and not SHAME. I regret nothing in my life. When I look back at my past I smile because it made me who I am today.
Do we recognize, it’s because no one made a list of perfect options in life. We took decisions - some turned out great, some okaish and some….well we don’t know.
Indeed! Its time for you to let them GO. It is not worth it. It isn’t. I am too young to preach anything to my friends. But there are two things I have experienced in my small life span. One, regret only if it makes you do something well again. Regret, if it helps you rise above and think of a superior solution for the future. Regret only if it makes you more observant, more skilled and more content for having realized what went off beam. If it makes you sulky; “Please guilt! Stay away I am too lazy to sympathize with you.”
Secondly, I have realized that sometimes we regret too soon. I don’t know if all of you who are reading this believe in The Almighty but I do. I have seen things turning out good through the same situation for which I have repented. I have seen that a few such lament decisions turned out in fact the finest and real life changing ones for me. The only thing is it took its own time. And I have a feeling God took that bit of “now good- then bad” decision for me. I have understood that we do get answers if not immediately then a little later. But we do.
Also, remorse brings along under-confidence. We are afraid to make evaluations for our life in future. You know we shouldn’t grieve over what has been done. we should regret over the things we didn’t when we had a chance. When I was in my 5th grade, I got a chance to participate in prelims of ‘Bournvita quiz contest’. I was asked to complete next two lines , “pussy cat pussy cat , where had you been”. I know that poem by heart but I was so unsure at that point of time. I kind of stopped and did not answer.I still regret that. I missed my chance for selection to the final levels. It was not about being on the show. It was about not having tried to answer.
I would just like to say in the end we only complain about the chances we didn’t take and the decisions we waited too long to make. Come what may. Be proud that you took that decision and nobody else. And that is in fact a matter of pride I say and not SHAME. I regret nothing in my life. When I look back at my past I smile because it made me who I am today.
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