Thinking beyond the obvious

I remember very fondly how I always asked my dad “How come you are always so optimistic that you forget to be pessimistic?” And he would just smile at my silly question and leave. He has always been very calm and composed when it comes to what we call ‘trying situations’ in life. Not only has that made it easier for everyone around him to deal with any matter but also THAT had a fundamental impact on my mind as a child.

The fact is that he chooses to behave differently. Now when I am grown up, I understand that it’s not that he is some super-human, it’s just that he decides to THINK first and not FEEL. He perseveres.

There are so many instances in life which bring us to difficult situations or decisions. And sometimes it’s the stupid little things which perturb us so much. I have observed that most of us just respond the most obvious way. We get sad, we crib, we retort, we feel dismayed as if it’s the end of this world.

We just fall into the trap. But try this. Just once. Don’t give in to the obvious reaction. Don’t get angry when you feel its alright to do so. Don’t lose your hope when you think that it’s over. Don’t be depressed when you suspect you can’t do it. Don’t be tired when you assume it’s not happening.

When I delivered my pre-term twins, I can recall how shattered I was to see them in the Intensive Care unit. But yes, I consciously made an effort not to be distressed and poignant, but to do what I am required to and in the finest possible manner. And believe me, that worked wonders.

Single mindedness and perseverance - Take a deep breath, close your eyes and Think beyond the obvious. Yes, and trust me you will come up with a more rational, simple and better solution. And then you would only regret for not having tried it before.

“One of the things I learned the hard way was that it doesn't pay to get discouraged. Keeping busy and making optimism a way of life can restore your faith in yourself.”- Anonymous